On Thursday, I toured senior housing places with my dad and one of them sits right next to a park that we love. So naturally, that night Jesse, Riley and I went to hang out there and enjoy the warm weather. I hope it's here to stay, but you never know in Minnesota as it was cold and snowy the week before.
While my dad's in no rush to move, he wants to check out his options just in case. His brother had to unexpectedly move into assisted living and my dad doesn't want to be in that situation. I did some research based on what my dad told me he was looking for and set up tours for three places near my house. One of his doctors and the hospital is in my neighborhood so he thought it was a good place to be. Plus, I'd be nearby so I'd be able to visit more.
Each place we looked at had it's pro's and con's so there wasn't a clear winner, but as I noted, one of them is right next to this park so it gets bonus points for that. A lot of them have great amenities, but often they were things my dad couldn't care less about (pool, library, men's card clubs). Not many of these places are going to have opportunities for cutting wood or tinkering in the garage.
A couple days after our visit I asked my dad his thoughts now that he'd had some time to sleep on it and he said "one of the things I noticed was that everyone in those places are old". Lol, yes dad, they are and so are you.
But I got what he meant as we saw a lot of people with canes or walkers. I pointed out that we might not have seen the more active ones and noted that the folks getting off the shuttle at one of the places looked quite sprite. I'm not sure he was buying it.
I think one of these places will be good for my dad if he can find like minded people to hang out with - to be able to build a social circle. In the meantime, I'm glad he's still able to be in his home as he's still active and strong. Plus I like being able to visit him there. I'm sure we'll all make our adjustments when the time comes, but for now we'll take each day as it is.